Several times lately while we are traveling, Gary comments on how much trust it takes to drive down the road (particularly in our Nashville area!). He then says, “You really have to trust that people will stay in their lane.” Translating that concept into my world, I think in terms of how much trust is needed by each person in a coupleship, for each to “stay in their lane.” So when we say, “I do”, we count on the other person to do the things they say they will do. Often in premarital counseling, we have negotiated a budget, contracted a loose set of agreements around the chores, and tried to lay a plan for Christmas activities concerning both families. We count on each other to “stay in their lane.” Then there are those implied agreements that come with the vows around love, honor, and cherish. These cause us to have expectations that our mate will stay in their lane when it comes to their treatment of each other. We expect they will appreciate, be grateful, and speak kindly. We expect that they won’t yell and scream horrible names as I have talked about in another blog. We expect that they won’t stay out all hours and not even make a phone call. And above all, we expect that they will adhere to the yellow lines around fidelity. They will not pass in a no pass zone.
Marriage is a no pass zone in fact. Don’t make any passes. We also expect the obeying of stop signs and paying attention at the yellow caution light. It all makes sense! Then there will be no wrecks. People die in wrecks. People get maimed and paralyzed in wrecks and suffer for years. Just “stay in your lane!”